As the holiday season is among us, Reese Witherspoon faces a dilemma familiar to countless divorced parents – how to share custody of her young children on those special days.

“I think the most important thing is to be a grownup,” she says, “and not let any kind of feelings affect how you deal with your children.” I like this Response by Reese a lot. Sounds obvious, but that is exactly what you have to do.

Reese Witherspoon officially divorced Ryan Phillipe in June.